Tuesday, December 17, 2013

My beliefs about beliefs are: 

I think that labeling beliefs powerful vs. limiting is limiting. All beliefs are both. A belief supports us on some level but holds us to that level. 

One can always find support for his particular belief, especially, if our beliefs determine our reality at some level. 

Let's just say that every belief has a result. If we are unhappy with the result, then we can change the belief. The change to a new belief is empowering until we've gone as far as we can go with the new belief. Then it becomes limiting. 

Beliefs are psycho-spiritual vehicles. Belief "A" takes us to belief "B" which takes us to belief "C." Hopefully, we outgrow one belief and move to the next. 

Together, beliefs about ourselves and our world make up our worldview. Beliefs about ourselves may be the most important to work with, but they are always tied to our beliefs about others. Changing any one of them will change others. 

In western psychology, when we work with beliefs and don't get the results we desire, we look for unconsciously held beliefs and schemas. We may use cognitive therapy, cognitive-behavioral therapy, rational-emotive therapy, hypnosis, guided visualization, etc. 

In eastern psychology, when things don't work out, we look to samskaras (soul imprints) or sankaras (mental formations). We may use raja yoga, concentrative meditations, mindfulness, karma yoga, etc. 

Some therapists attribute stubborn beliefs to our anatomy and physiology and use massage, reiki, bioenergetics, etc. Some westerners do eastern-oriented therapies like past life therapy. 

When we are growing mentally or spiritually, we leave one belief and take hold of another that is more inclusive, more loving, and more powerful. We open up to a greater reality with each change.

The universe is infinite, or at least infinite enough, that everyone has their own unique path as they move from one belief to the next in their own time and fashion. 

Everyone is unique,and holds unique beliefs. It feels nice when we meet someone who shares similar beliefs, but if we are going to get the greatest good the relationship can hold, we must respect that we each have our unique path.

Sunday, May 27, 2012

Personal Style or Personality Style

The term personal style has only recently been used by a few mental health professionals to describe meaningful differences between people, and it is not yet part of the professional vocabulary. Rather, personal style is a term commonly found in the fashion world where it refers to one’s choice in dress, clothing, and accessories… 

a mode of fashion, as in dress, especially good or approved fashion; elegance; smartness.

Personal Style commonly refers to “fashion sense.” Thus “Describe your personal style” is identical to the 1st canned question, “What style of dress do you prefer?”2

Personal style is your own individual way of doing things. You hear this term used more in the fashion world than anywhere else. This is your own unique appearance.3

Your personal style is evident in everything you own, from the car you drive to the decorations in your home.4

Personal style constantly evolves as you transition in life through age, career, interests, climates, and even geographical location. But the bottom line is, every woman has a dominant dressing style (as well as living style and communication style) with which she can best identify.5

Psychiatrist Gregory G. Young compared personal style with personality. His definition of personality included one’s attitudes, modes of though, feelings, impulses, strivings, actions, and responses to opportunity and stress and everyday modes of interacting with others. According to Young, personality style presents itself when these elements of personality are expressed in a characteristically repeated and dynamic combination.6 Oldham and Morris described personality style as your organizing principle. It propels you on your life path.

Thursday, May 10, 2012

Personal Style

I would have to say that my initial introduction to personal style, as it is used here, occurred in early 2005 at the Borders Book Store in Fort Lauderdale, Florida—a very popular site right on the waters of the intercostal waterway. I thoroughly enjoyed conducting reading groups in psychology, astrology, relationships, and self-help as well as attending other groups there. I truly experienced the saying “People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.” I met all three at the Borders there—wonderful people came into my life for a reason, a season, and a lifetime.

At Borders, like so many other book stores, when a book becomes a liability for one reason or another, the price is slashed to a few dollars and the book is placed on a table in the vestibule or ante-chamber of the store. Given the wonderful, sunny weather and the cool ocean breeze, the Fort Lauderdale Borders often held sales on tables outdoors—a book bazar of sorts. It was there that I found Who Do You Think You Are? Explore Your Many-Sided Self with The Berkeley Personality Profile by Keith Harary and Eileen Donahue.

I love a bargain and anything regarding personality and self-knowledge. (For you astrologers reading this, my natal Jupiter is in Gemini in my seventh house.) I didn’t know at the time that Who Do You Think You Are? was on sale because the authors had just come out with a revised edition. I moved from Fort Lauderdale to Illinois just before the new edition became available. (My progressed Moon crossed my natal Ascendant.)

It would be several years later--a quintuple by-pass surgery, etc.--before I would actually find the time to read Who Do You Think You Are? (Transiting Pluto opposed my natal Jupiter and squared my natal Sun; My natal Pluto is in Leo, conjunct my natal Venus within a degree.)

Picking up Who Do You Think You Are?, I wondered why I bought it. Was it worth the few dollars I paid for it?

In Who Do You Think You Are?, Harary and Donahue transformed the psychological theory of personality known as the Big Five or the Five-Factor-Model of personality into the Berkeley Personality Profile—a model of personality that describes behavior as a collage of five personal styles. Harary and Donahue reframed the five factors of the Big Five—Extraversion, Emotional Stability, Agreeableness, Conscientiousness, and Openness to Experience—into the Expressive Style, the Emotional Style, the Interpersonal Style, the Work Style, and the Intellectual Style.

All this may sound ominous, but the book is actually quite easy to read and comprehend. Much of it had been previously published in Psychology Today.

Thursday, March 29, 2012

Theories of Personality

Personality, in the largest sense, is the organic whole in which the physiological and the psycho-mental natures of man are progressively integrated.
Therefore it represents the wholeness of the human being as a microcosm;
man as a whole solar system operating on the background of,
and in constant relationship to the zodiac or the galaxy.
Dane Rudhyar

Astrologer Dane Rudhyar, author of The Astrology of Personality, took the position that astrology and personality form a symbiotic union: Understanding one could only be accomplished by understanding both. Rudhyar defined personality as:
What we call today “personality” is a synthesis of patterns of behavior. It is the sum total of all the outer motions of the human being: The total rhythm of his life-operations—from the way he walks and twitches his lips to his behavior on the battlefield or on a concert platform. It is a complex of activities. Without activity there could be no “personality.” And personality behavior is obviously a blend of inherited and environmental influences operating within an abstract structure of selfhood—the individual factor. Likewise, the planets are characterized as to their nature by their zodiacal positions, and they operate in particular ways according to their positions in the structure of houses. The sum total of the planets including the Sun and Moon—the planetary pattern, as we call it—represents thus the personality as a whole.1
Regarding personality and astrology, he wrote:
Astrology…is an art of life-interpretation and it provides us with a technique for the development and fulfillment of “personality.” Its aim is to transform chaotic human nature into a microcosm. When man becomes truly a microcosm, he demonstrates personality to fullest extent and manifests as a living Person, or as a great Personage…The goal of astrology is the alchemy of personality. It is to transform chaos into cosmos, collective human nature into individual and creative personality.2
Psychologist Lawrence A. Pervin defined personality as:
…those structural and dynamic properties of an individual or individuals as they reflect themselves in characteristic responses to situations.3
According to Pervin, personality: (1) is characterized by consistencies across all individuals and across groups of individuals, or even by consistency within a single individual; (2) includes both structure and dynamics—personality is characterized by parts and by relationships among these parts; (3) does not operate in a vacuum, but rather consists of responses to situations; and (4) ultimately is defined in terms of behavior.4

Theories of Personality:
Starting with Sigmund Freud’s publication of The Interpretation of Dreams in 1879, modern psychology has seen a legion of theories regarding personality come and go. Theories of personality are usually part of and/or accompanied by theories of development, motivation, cognition, emotion, psychopathology, abnormality, adjustment, therapy, counseling, and change.

Sunday, August 28, 2011

Your Harvest Moon Forecast
September 2011

September is under the influence of the August’s New Moon. This lunation cycle begins on the 28th of August and ends on the 27th of September. The New Moon occurs in the sixth degree of Virgo, and the following Full Moon—known as the Harvest Moon--occurs in the twentieth degree of Virgo on September 12th. This lunation cycle calls for personal adjustments through analysis, discrimination, and self-improvement.

The emotional responses of the public are analytical, discerning, economical, practical, and critical. Thoughts turn to work, service, and health. Attending to details, organizing tasks, perfecting techniques, and establishing routines are emphasized. Hyper-criticism may be directed internally, resulting in self-paralysis and/or externally, resulting in some form of interpersonal conflict. Personal growth comes through evaluating the results of past actions and retaining for the future those actions deemed desirable.

This lunation is an unusually positive one! The Sun and Moon conjoin Venus and Transpluto, trine Pluto in Capricorn and Jupiter in Taurus, and oppose Neptune in Aquarius and Chiron in Pisces. Expect significant, positive changes in the areas of love and romance, money and finances when they are approached in an analytical and pragmatic manner. Careful discrimination results in lasting gains in these areas. It is possible to see through harmful fantasies and idealistic delusions.

A close square between Mars in Cancer and Saturn in Libra indicates some procrastination due to unrealistically high demands and expectations of others, but primarily of oneself. Keep in mind that, according to Albert Ellis, the father of Rational-Emotive Therapy, any task worth doing is worth doing poorly. In other words, let go on unrealistic perfectionism.


The New Moon takes place in your solar 6th house of work, health, daily routine, and personal adjustments. Diet, exercise, and health are positively impacted. There is much enthusiasm for following through any changes you want to make. Breaking habits is easy now. Your vitality is strong. Issues at work and with co-workers, employees, or employers are favorable.


The New Moon occupies in your solar 5th house of creativity, romance, and emotions. Self-expression is emphasized. Pursue whatever makes you happy.

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Intimate Relationships:
Five Stages of Development

Dr. E. Michael Lillibridge, author of The Love Book for Couples, presents a five stage model for successful intimate relationships in his marriage enrichment courses. According to Dr. Lillibridge, at each of the five stages, the couple has one or more tasks that need to be successfully completed before the couple can move on to the next stage. Each stage requires a particular set of skills that will help the couple deal with the problems typical of the particular stage. All couples need to address and negotiate each stage in order to form a close, loving relationship.

The first stage of Dr. Lillibridge's five stage success model begins prior to the relationship and is called the stage of Self-Esteem. In this stage each person needs to develop self-acceptance, positive self-esteem, and a degree of self-reliance. Individuals who do not successfully complete this stage enter relationships with low self-esteem and are subject to becoming overly dependent on his or her partner. This dependency may not seem like a problem at first, but it is certain to sabotage later stages.

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

The Justin Bieber – Usher Raymond Astrological Connection

The young Canadian pop/rock singer/star Justin Bieber burst out onto the world scene in 2009 at the tender age of 15-years-old. In 2008 Justin’s manager Scooter Braun introduced him to music superstar Usher. Usher played a major role in facilitating Justin’s career and continues to guide and influence him. We would expect to find significant connections between the natal charts of Justin and Usher, and we do!
Before going into any tedious details of astrological analysis, we can start with the bigger picture of Sun and Moon sign compatibility. Justin was born with the Sun in Pisces and Moon in Libra—water and air signs—emotion and communication. Usher was born with the Sun in Libra and the Moon in Pisces—air and water—communication and emotion. Justin’s Sun conjoins Usher’s Moon, and Usher’s Sun conjoins Justin’s Moon. There couldn’t be a more favorable combination!
I find astrologer Jefferson Andersen’s synthesis of Sun and Moon signs to be uncannily accurate. Jefferson calls Justin’s Sun in Pisces/Moon in Libra the “Delicate Balance”:

In your combination, the emotional depth, charm, and sensitivity of Pisces is enhanced by gentle, peace-loving, romantic Libra. You have an aura of tranquility, and people respond positively to your soft-spoken kindness. Devotion is the key to your combination. You have a very romantic soul, and that romanticism extends to all things. You are extremely conscientious, and once you’ve set your life goals, few can match you for dedication and determination. Drawn to the arts, you are probably a highly creative individual. You have a perfect understanding of form, beauty, and aesthetics. Natives of your combination include Frederic Chopin, Nat King Cole, and Rudolf Nureyev.